What On Earth is Unconditional love?
Sometimes it is difficult to express what the heart line stores and experiences. I realize that sometimes I am not aware of the beautiful gift that life gives me daily, and I receive more of what I “lose”.
Love is not a feeling. It is a state. I call it the “state of Unconditional Love.” And those feelings come and go, fill us or leave us. It can not be controlled and rarely (almost never) can we decide what to feel. So you can not exercise value judgments when someone feels “good” or “bad” because it only feels, it is not bound.
Unconditional Love on the contrary, it does require an election, requires will and action. And that love can be a side effect as feeling “good” or positive, which is the same as an inner feeling that is comfortable. However, it is also contradictory, because love can produce pain so intense that we even lose track of reality and believe that feeling pain is the only “reality”
Love requires choice. I firmly believe that you can choose to Unconditional Love, because we can choose who to hate. They have the same performance. Who hated it means most of this sentiment is unfortunately easier to accommodate, and I think we all experience in our lives at some point. You can not say the same for love as it is experienced to a lesser extent if our environment decided not love and are open to recognize it. An environment devoid of love can be a breeding ground for hate-filled person, a person who knows no commitment to others, fidelity, loyalty, sacrifices, and responsibility. It is simply a person who focuses his life itself.
Love requires will. It is the sense of inner strength that moves the action to decide. Will is not to choose but have the strength to make it effective. You hear the phrase “But I can not forgive…”, “even though I try, I can not forget” “I can not stop thinking about these things.” These are actions that require an inner maturity, exercised in making decisions, however difficult they are. When we do an exercise, practice any artistic expression or just “study”, we are exercising the will. Sometimes laziness, tiredness comes upon us, the disappointment … but our will moves us to arrive at the last minute of exercise.
Love requires action. At this point, if we chose to be loved, and we have the will to love, the action is the outward manifestation of the two internal processes. Unconditional Love is to be shown. And speaking of action does not necessarily involve the basic expressions of affection such as kissing or hugging. Speaking of action involves the beloved act to be happy. Obviously this has its nuances. We can choose to be “happy” a person in a short time, or think of being happy for long.
The action of Unconditional Love must be free from selfishness. If we can think of another person, we can even feel pain. If you say love is a feeling, think again. Love is a set of feelings, but its basis, its essence is the feeling … that inner strength is called will.
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